Common gene pool, bloodline and heritage aside, what makes siblings bound together for life?
This great article from the NY Times (http://www.nytimes.com/2013/05/26/opinion/sunday/bruni-the-gift-of-...) made me ponder and reflect on my own relationship with my 8 siblings. * Copy paste the link to your browser to read said article. Anyone with siblings will surely find this a very interesting read.
I shared this article on my Facebook page and this became a gateway for me and my siblings to share our thoughts. Coming from a large family (I’m the 7th in a brood of 9) our ages now range from the first “batch” who are in their 50′s, the second batch in our 40′s and the youngest sibling in his late 30′s. With such a disparity in our ages (not to mention our personalities) it’s not surprising that over the years we have at times drifted apart only to reunite at various stages of our lives. Geography has divided us (6 siblings still live in our native country, one has made Germany his home for the past 20+ years and me and my sister are in NY), time has overtaken us, but when we do get together it’s always fun to re-live our younger years.
But as Bruni’s piece in the NY TImes articulates, “family closeness isn’t a happy accident…IT’S a resolve, a priority made and obeyed.”
We need to make space in our hectic lives for our one time ‘housemates”. Our shared heritage should not be the only tie that binds us. Time should be set aside and prioritized for sibling bonding. We must be active participants in our siblings lives. As we age, time is of the essence. A reminder needs to be top of mind to carpe diem. Because failure to make ‘future memories’ with our siblings and their families as we go on our separate journeys in life will make our shared genetics and distant memories of family dinners and weekend get aways, the only link we share.