It is extremely hard to some, especially when its during a separation, like I am. I have a ranch style home, my first home, and its not too big, 3 bedroom and a basement. And yet, I feel as though my house is never cleaned! My daughter as I always mention, is in her terrible twos. This little girl walks into a room and within seconds it’s like a tornado attacked. She goes by my desk and just pushes everything down. She throws almost everything in site. I recently found her stash of DVDs under the carpet! Aiden cries a lot and it’s awful because he spend about 80% of the day in my arms. I tried that “cry it out” for him but when he cries too hard, he passes out OR turns red and blue and starts gasping for air so really, there’s not that many options for me.
I came across an article: http://parentingsquad.com/easy-ways-to-keep-a-house-relatively-clea...
This article explains ways to clean your home when you have small children and I find it very helpful. It explains that if your going to check for mail, take a bag of garbage out too, or going to the basement, take something you have to put into storage, everything gets done a lot faster. Even while you cook you can clean the kitchen as well like when you don’t need to stand there while something gets heated, empty the dish washer or arrange the spices. Everyone should read this if they are having trouble. Sometimes I get so tired and instead of cleaning when both babies take a nap, I end up sitting down for a long time or taking a nap with them! I feel like the only way I can get this house clean is with help. I live alone with my 2 babies and my father visits a lot, since he lives a few blocks away. Sometimes he’ll watch the babies for me at my house while I get my cleaning on. I sometimes make lists of things that need to be done and everything on it hardly ever gets crossed off.
Since the separation, I have felt that I have to clean my house to get rid of my ex husbands scent in a way. I need it to feel warm and cozy, as if a woman lives here, a woman’s touch. Obviously doing so, hurt feelings will spring up, then thinking about why it failed will come across my mind making it hard to do clean each time. I have found that the best way for me to clean is turning on some good music and dancing with my baby girl. She’ll even start to clean too! My favorite is laundry. Gathering the clothes/towels/bed sheets, is not hard at all. Sort them. Throw them in the washer, in the mean time clean something else since not too many people wash their clothes by hand. Last step is to put them in the dryer before you actually have to do some hands on folding! Folding, is my favorite. I kind of have an OCD and my clothes have to be folded in a certain way. At this point, I have my infant laying on his play mat, and my daughter enjoys folding the towels, socks, and hand towels, while I fold the clothes. This takes about 20 minutes.
Any tips to share with parents?