Suppose you have 20 things to do during the course of a day. Further, suppose that nineteen of those things go well. The question is, which of the 20 things do most of us tend to focus on when we get home at night? Which do we talk about with those we love?
The answer, of course, is that most of us tend to focus on the one two things that went wrong instead of the overwhelming number of things that went right. Why? Because we've become accustomed to spending our times and mental energy zeroing in on all that's wrong and all that needs to be done.
It's time to create a new habit. Even if the good outweighs the bad, we spend the majority of our energy focusing on what went wrong. That's why it is time to take ourselves on what I call mini-vacations.
We don't have to be on cruise or in a cabin in the woods to relax and enjoy ourselves. Instead, we can easily set aside short periods of time each day and bring fun and balance back into our lives.
I'll put forth my example. For me a mini-vacation is a must. I just can't move without this vacation or else I end up ruining my day. For me my day, my time is very precious. Doesn't matter even if I purposely waste couple of hours knowingly. My mini-vacation includes, reading newspaper with a cup of tea early morning when my husband n kids r still sleeping, go for a long walk with ipod, I love long walks in the snow, solving sudoku puzzles without fail when family is at work/school. Going on a long drive with some snacks, music, coffee, ice-cap...yummm.....read a lot of books at night, blog, chat with friends for a little while, watching movies, listening to music while cooking, there is hospital nearby my house and volunteers are always welcomed at such places. I go there, volunteers for couple of hours, take flowers for 10 patient, help them with their lunch, talk to them, smile with them, cry with them.........I go on a vacation everyday with at least 2-3 things from the list. That makes my day and I'm ready for the family when they return home in the evening. It's a reset button that helps you de-stress.
Whatever you do on ur mini-vacation, if it gives you a break during your day, it's perfect for you. It is your special time, if possible make it non-negotiable. In other words, don't let other priorities interfere unless they are true emergencies.
When we take a mini-vacation everyday, life isn't nearly as overwhelming. We have something to look forward to that is perfect antidote to our results-obsessed lives.
This is a very small change in terms of minutes expended, yet the energy, enthusiasm, and vitality it produces with astound you.